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Lessons Learned

Sometimes it takes longer to learn lessons so the universe just keeps bringing the opportunities around for you to learn until you actually do. How often do you say, “not this again” or “why does this always happen to me?” If you say things like that it is often a sign that there is some kind of lesson that you need to learn that you just aren’t getting because you keep repeating the opportunities to learn.

I have a few of those lessons myself but other’s I have “for the most part” conquered and come out the better for having finally learned what I needed to know. So here are a couple lessons that really changed my life.

  1. The faster you own up to your part in everything that happens to you the faster you can heal, grow and move on. We have a tendency to want to blame everyone and everything around us instead of just accepting that we are co-creators of our experiences. When you can accept that and take responsibility for creating the situations you find yourself in, the easier it is to get through them. (and yes, there is always some way, some thing that you did, thought or said that helped create every situation.)
  2. Pride is not more important than people. This doesn’t mean be a doormat. This means that you shouldn’t let your own pride keep you from accepting that we are all fallible. We all make mistakes, act out, say harsh things etcetera. Place your value on the relationship and not on being right.
  3. Saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t mean you are really sorry if you repeat the behavior. It means you were sorry you got caught in the moment but not enough to stop the behavior. Really being sorry means you want to stop the behavior that caused the problem and you will do everything in your power to not do it again. In my opinion, don’t say the words if you can’t back it up with the actions.
  4. Living your life with Integrity isn’t easy but you have way less problems in the long run. If you are authentic and real and have strong moral principles people will know what to expect from you and as the saying goes, “you teach people how to treat you” and I have found that if I am authentic and walk through life with integrity I naturally pull people toward me that are the same and believe me, that is worth it.

The thing is, life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. You have to decide for yourself what works and what doesn’t. You have to be true to yourself but in that, pay attention when the universe is sending you opportunities to learn and grow. If you pay attention and take time to learn from your experiences your life will change and you will grow.

Advice to the young

I have for all intents and purposes arrived at the age that I feel comfortable saying I have advice for the younger generations. I guess maybe I feel like that is acceptable because I now have grown children out there in the world living their lives.

When we are young, we think we have the world at our feet and that time is endless and absolutely nothing can happen to us. Well, here is my life advice for those that are younger:

  • Travel the world. Travel as much as you can whether it is weekend jaunts or trips around the world. Travel will open you up and expand you. See vistas, experience other cultures, taste other foods, feel how other people live. It will be the best education you can get.
  • It may seem all fun and games and exciting to blow your money when you don’t have a lot of bills but the bills will come and grow so be smart and save some of your money, even if it only $5 a week. Look for ways to invest your money once you have saved it up.
  • Buy a house as soon as you can. I always believed that I could buy a house any time I wanted. Not true. We had three kids relatively close together and literally priced ourselves out of what we could afford versus how much space we had to have. It was a hard lesson to learn and took a very long time to come through.
  • Don’t let pride get in the way of relationships. You can get over anything but you can’t replace people in your life. Seriously!

Life is a complicated thing and you can get through anything as long as you stay grounded and believe that you can succeed. Sounds cheesy but its true.

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