Do you ever get in a conversation with your friends and family about where they best place to be is? You know… the best place to eat, get a coffee, buy a book, see a movie? Maybe the best neighborhood to live in or the best place to work? Everyone has an opinion. That is just part of life. The key is to make up your own mind and not be dependent on other people’s opinions. The key is to listen to your own internal voice about what is right for you but I digress a bit.
This post is about the best place to BE. For me that means the best place to BE as a person. So here is my opinion (funny as I just said to ignore other people’s opinion!) I think the best place to BE as an individual is open. If we are open to life experiences and learning then we will forever BE in a place of growth. Growth is really important. If you aren’t growing you are stagnating and stagnation leads to death ad decay and seriously….who wants that?
Being open to life has been a learning process for me. Its not as easy as it sounds. Lots of situations come up and challenge me to be open to different ideas, different concepts, different traditions etcetera. Even in the middle of situations I have to verbally remind myself to be open and non-judgmental. I will say this…. I have found life to be more enjoyable when I have been open to other experiences and I have learned a lot by keeping an open mind.
So here is my challenge to you: Can you stay open? Try it for an hour. Then try it for two. Then try if for an afternoon. Then a whole day. Keep working on it until you are actually staying more open than closed off. It will change life.
Tell me that you have been faced with the proposition of having to let go of something, whether it was mental, physical or emotional. Tell me that you have been in the situation where you knew you needed to let go but still found yourself holding on. This can be everything from a relationship with someone to food.
I’m not necessarily an advocate of giving up so that is NOT what I am talking about here. Giving up is entirely different. Giving up is a lack of belief that you can accomplish something so you quit actively pursuing it but letting go is a decision to release something in the expectation that by doing so it will benefit you and improve your situation, whatever that may be.
I have developed a habit of taking a personal inventory twice a year. Most would think New Year’s is one of those times but in actuality I do it in March (my birthday month) and in October (the start of Fall). I picked my birthday because it allows me to think about the past year of my life and see if I am where I want to be at the new age I am becoming. I picked October because Fall is one of my favorite times a year and for me there is something about nestling into hearth and home that brings to mind contemplation. As the end of the year is a very busy time for me with work I don’t really have time to think about intentions for the New Year so this just works better for me and it gives me longer to think about how I intend to take action toward the changes I want to see.
Anyway, today is about letting go and what I want to let go of. So, here is my grand confession…..I really want to let go caring about people’s opinions. Over the year’s I have been able to separate myself to some extent and realize that I can’t please everyone but really, truly, not caring about other people’s opinions about me? That’s so HARD! The thing is that I am discovering that because I do care, more than I should, I am often afraid to take action to do things that will make my life and business better, even when I know that it is what I need to do.
Why should I care what other people think when they aren’t living my life, walking in my shoes and when my actions don’t determine their future? Honestly, if they aren’t directly affected by my decision why should their opinion matter? I know this. I feel this but putting it into action? Total FAIL! However, I’m not giving up. This is my goal, my quest. I will learn to let go and in doing so climb the mountain before me.