I’d rather be a could be
If I could not be an are
For a could be is a maybe
With a chance of reaching par
I’d rather be a has been
Then a might of have been by far
For a might have been has never been
But a has was once an are
This poem was something I used in my goodbye speech when I gave up the title of Miss Blaine. Its amazing to me that 31 years later this quickly memorized poem still impacts my life. I find myself quoting it at the most random times, often just in my head where no one can hear. I will be facing some challenge or some task and the words just seem to float inside my head. Like a little reminder that I have the choice in each moment on what path I will walk.
I can choose to take action or I can choose to always be a maybe and never quite getting to the goal. A few years ago (like 7), I started watching how often I would say something like “I’ve always wanted to do (fill in the blank).” For a solid year I had this hyper-awareness of how often I was saying it. I decided every time those words popped out of my mouth that I would really look at what I was saying. The truth is, if I wanted to do something I would figure out a way to do it. I always have. All the rest was simply verbal vomit. Do I really want to go bungee jumping? Love the idea but in reality – hell no. No jumping off perfectly safe bridges for me.
That year was very enlightening to me. I learned a lot about myself. That hyper-awareness allowed me to quit saying things that I didn’t really mean and I took action on a lot of things that I had been saying “I always wanted to do” because there was simply no reason not to do them if I wanted to. It was kind of like my own bucket list for the year.
I don’t honestly ever expect to outgrow the above poem. I don’t think we ever outgrow words of wisdom – no matter how simple the words. We just continue to find new meaning in them and continue to grow. So maybe those simple words will help someone else and maybe in another 30 years I can look back on my life and say with certainty that I am a Has Been that was once an Are!