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And take a deep breath

Have you ever been in a situation where someone else created a problem and it becomes YOUR problem to come up with a solution and make it work for everyone involved? Oh, and could we add in the additional pressure of a short time line to get the problem resolved and the inability to spend any money to make any of the possible solutions happen? Lets just top it off with about 25 people all looking at you for the answers and lets just make sure that you are so busy you can hardly think straight let alone be “creative and thinking outside the box”. Yep, this is my life for the last couple of days and the resolution has to be in place and completely rock solid by Friday at 10:00 am.

It’s amazing how many emotions you can go through in a day when you are in the middle of this kind of a situation. I’m honest enough to say that all those emotions haven’t been exactly “sunshine and roses” and there have definitely been times when I thought people would be able to see steam rolling out of my ears but I will say there is something very satisfying about figuring things out and pulling all the scattered pieces together.

I realize I am being paid to handle these kinds of situations but there are times when I wonder why, exactly, I have signed on to accept so much stress in my life. Late nights, early mornings, and the cycle goes on and on. No matter why I have chosen this path, the fact remains that I have and those aggravating components of crazy situations like I’ve been dealing with lately won’t go away without some dedicated focus. So I guess rather than deliberately avoiding the little gremlins that popped up this evening to make my 10:00 am Friday deadline even more difficult I should quit blogging and get back to it.

Challenged…ready, set, GO!

That about sums it up
I can’t tell you the amount of times I have heard people say this about themselves or others and I wonder why, exactly, we are all aware of this behavior but we don’t DO anything about it. Its kind of like we are cattle just being herded along what is “socially acceptable”. Where is the honesty in that? I mean seriously….if you invite your friend to something and they come up with an excuse not to go, you are aware that they have basically just said, “sorry, this isn’t really rating on my important list so I’m going to pass but I don’t want to hurt your feelings so I’m going to tell you that I already made plans” (Yeah, they made plans to be curled up with a glass of wine and a good book on the couch). Funny thing is, we smile, nod our head and accept the excuse even when we know that is what we are hearing.

What I don’t understand is if we all do this and we are aware that everyone else is doing this, then when did it become wrong to say, I need to nourish myself right now and even though the offer sounds tempting I’d really rather do (fill in the blank). I understand the whole concept of “it’s polite” and “I don’t want to offend someone” but my question still stands…when did it become wrong to simply express your needs/wants/desires instead of coming up with excuses that mask them from others as if they are some kind of sin?

And of course, there is the other side of the coin, if something is important to us we will find a way to make it happen. I can only speak from personal experience here but if something registers on my “important” notebook in my subconscious – you bet I will find a way to make it work. Why? Well, duh, because it matters to me. But boy howdy if it isn’t important to me I can actually become very creative in my avoidance of things. (I can’t be the only one here) So after thinking about this statement I’ve decided that it challenges me on both sides of the coin. Challenge 1: Be more honest in my communication with others and quit making excuses. Challenge 2: Be more honest with myself on what is important in my life and quit making excuses when something doesn’t make the cut just because I think it will be “more socially accepted and understood.”

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